Hey there Luke Trayser, since you addressed your letter specifically to me and other parents alike… I thought it only polite to respond. Please note, I have spared you the eyesore of all caps… you can thank me later.

I guess I could start by thanking you for your concise, formulaic instructions on how to parent our kids in public — but I won’t.

You are clearly highly skilled in the art of making a complete judgement (having gathered all the available and relevant information )on your fellow flawed human parents (who may or may not have accidentlly stomped down the toy aisle), following these snapshots of real life you were privileged to witness.

Let me get this straight, I am a bully to my defenceless children because I have had the audacity to lose my temper and raise my voice at my children in public at least once? *takes notes*

I am rather unhappy and on a downer about the mess that is my life…so I actively choose to berate my children publicly. *takes more notes*

I clearly based on all this, mistreat my defenceless children in the privacy of my home any chance I get. *furious note taking*

Ergh… *tears up notes and discards over left shoulder*

There is a difference between a stressed parent struggling to cope with a pressured situation, like shopping with small children — and an abusive bully.

Might I suggest, that a little smile in support may be much more helpful than your judgement. I would hope that any other parent who has ever done this type of berating even once — does not come across your letter of judgement and feel like a shitty arse parent because of it.

Lastly, if you ever come across me in public and I happen to be wearing my best resting Bitch face — please do not feel tempted to tell me to smile.


Yours sincerely,

Parent who has had the audacity to berate her children now aged 10&6 in public before — but is able to apply mercy and grace to herself and others

Hey there I'm D. Writer/Poet/Mother - I know a little Tai Chi, but my Kung Fu is weak - beautifully flawed Email:dabboh76@outlook.com

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