Hey there Sam, OK… there you go provoking my thoughts again. Hmm, how to be Black? Well, I know this much — Stacey is not the ‘how to’ model I align with. She lost me at colourblind, ugh! For me, stages 2 and 3 most closely align with my ‘shades of Blackness.’ Shout out to Miss Anika, my sister from another Mister. Within the so called ‘social construct’ of race, there is self identity. These are the makings of humans, let’s align it with DNA — we all have our own unique fibres that at the same time bonds us under the umbrella of being human.

When we acknowledge and accept ourselves wholeheartedly, we can begin to apply ‘care and consciousness ’— in understanding what it is to be human. My race is African, my nationality is Nigerian, my ethnicity is Urhobo (my Nigerian tribe) and all of this is entwined with my Blackness.

Sadly, the default cultural norm of ‘whiteness’ requires that all that is put aside, for us all to assimilate into that ‘social construct.’ *sighs*

I had a quick look at the link on other racial groups and the stages of identity, the ‘pseudo independence’ stage in the white race I personally see played out the most — identifying there is an unjust issue when it comes to race pertaining to people of colour — yet looking to people of colour to address and ‘fix’ it with their support on the sidelines… something like that, very interesting. Sam, I’ll leave it here… thank you for sharing 🌻

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